Witness the huge popularity of The Law of Attraction, which says that our thoughts attract events into our lives. I've heard it said that "expectations are premeditated resentments.". Usually it indicates that you tried once again to control or manipulate a situation or outcome and was resentful when it didn't turn out the way you expected. We could not wish them away any more than alcohol. Same thing with phone calls- if I called you and left a message and two or three days went by without a response, the committee would immediately start telling me that you dont like me anymore. This exercise of step 4, putting aside the other person, is an essential aspect of learning the root characteristics of our personality. resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness. as soon as they answered I began to feel better. If someone doesnt use a turn signal to change lanes, people with road rage issues will cuss that person and call them an idiot or bitch about them texting and driving- like that person did something on purpose to you. Good day! Expectations are premeditated resentments. Really, that expectation is that you are going to get your way. Try to avoid him as much as possible but dont take it personally when he says something rude, and certainly dont have some expectation that this year hes going to be different. This is fine and good if the other person is happy to do so. When you find yourself feeling resentment, you can almost always trace it back to your expectations. I know her better than anyone. The Psychology of Expectations | Psychology Today UK It boils down to maintaining serenity and staying in a fit spiritual condition. We lose contact with our higher power when we hold bitterness toward another human being. Maybe you can make them a cup of tea and set it outside the shower for them- move the flowers from the dinner table up to the bedroom so she can appreciate them there- give an extra hug, or give some space if thats what your person needs. As Step 3 says, "made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understand him". It should be easy to think of examples in your own life where you have felt resentful toward people who did not live up to your expectations. The book may also be sold by Intergroup/Central Offices or recovery book stores at List Price. Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes. In A.A. meetings we hear that expectations are premeditated resentments. My apple ipad is now broken and she has 83 views.I know this is entirely off topic but I had to share it with someone! Parents assume that their children should obey their expectations because adults have the authority to run a household. We imagine extreme triumphs over the people who wronged us, with the confidence alcohol brings, but in the end, we return to our ruminations. When you find yourself feeling resentment, you can almost always trace it back to your expectations. And that is perfectly okay, too. Top 40 Expectation Hurts Quotes with Images - Peoples Quotes Have you ever had the big birthday party that you plan and invite all your friends and buy a special outfit for it and you are so excited you spend two weeks thinking about all the fun you are going to have and all the fun all your friends are going to have and its going to be epic!